{"id":3230,"date":"2017-10-16T11:41:42","date_gmt":"2017-10-16T11:41:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/?p=3230"},"modified":"2017-10-18T13:34:17","modified_gmt":"2017-10-18T13:34:17","slug":"irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/","title":{"rendered":"The Irony of Running into My 11th Grade Language Arts Teacher"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>God, I hope she never reads this.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve been following me this year, then you know <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/06\/22\/ive-lost-everything-but-weight-this-year\/\" target=\"_blank\">I&#8217;ve fallen off<\/a><\/strong>. I don&#8217;t write blogs as frequently as I should. I am late responding to Facebook notifications (primarily because I removed the app from my phone) and I rarely share <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/sheistyler\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>pictures of my life on Instagram<\/strong><\/a>. I wrote about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.likeabossgirls.com\/today-day-breakup-depression\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>my bouts of depression<\/strong><\/a> and <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.likeabossgirls.com\/binging-emotional-eating-must-end\/\" target=\"_blank\">emotional eating<\/a><\/strong>. 2017 is forcing me to deal. I can&#8217;t even resize pics on my blog. Idk, what is life.<\/p>\n<p>Laying low turned out to be the best coping mechanism. Life is far from bad, however, this isn&#8217;t the season of harvest that I greatly anticipated.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m also coping with the passing of my favorite aunt. This year is a wild one, yet it&#8217;s also serving as a reminder regarding the beauty and value of family. When I&#8217;m not freelancing up and down the East coast, I am catching up with my family and close friends in Greenville, SC. I&#8217;ll go ahead and say it now. Can&#8217;t stand Greenville. Nope, not ever.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/womanscreaming.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3235\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/womanscreaming\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/womanscreaming.gif?fit=370%2C200&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"370,200\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"womanscreaming\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/womanscreaming.gif?fit=300%2C162&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/womanscreaming.gif?fit=370%2C200&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3235\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/womanscreaming.gif?resize=370%2C200\" alt=\"womanscreaming\" width=\"370\" height=\"200\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I complained for\u00a0years in Charlotte, but it&#8217;s more vibrant and livelier than this. When I tell people that Greenville is my hometown, I always get the response of &#8220;The downtown area is beautiful. I\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">LOVE<\/span> Greenville!&#8221;. I smile awkwardly thinking &#8220;This segregated ass, gentrified face city. Okay.&#8221; I reserve Tyler X for my trill Facebook statuses. She&#8217;s unwarranted in day-to-day interactions.<\/p>\n<p>That being said, I am also reminded each time that I am home how I have no value here outside of the walls of my childhood home. I&#8217;m convinced that 93% of men here don&#8217;t like Black women (fight me), so I keep my interactions with the opposite sex at a minimum.<\/p>\n<p>Except for my Walmart bae.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1487\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1487\" style=\"width: 250px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/yaasss.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"1487\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2015\/11\/28\/the-sensation-of-watching-creed-in-gifs\/yaasss\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/yaasss.gif?fit=250%2C143&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"250,143\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"yaasss\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo Credit: Tumblr&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/yaasss.gif?fit=250%2C143&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/yaasss.gif?fit=250%2C143&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1487\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/yaasss.gif?resize=250%2C143\" alt=\"Photo Credit: Tumblr\" width=\"250\" height=\"143\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1487\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo Credit: Tumblr<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>So what do I do for recreation? I dress up and go to Walmart.<\/p>\n<h2>Exclusive footage of me in the produce section.<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_3231\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3231\" style=\"width: 480px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/naomi-campbell-walk.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3231\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/naomi-campbell-walk\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/naomi-campbell-walk.gif?fit=480%2C240&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"480,240\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"naomi campbell walk\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo: Tenor&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/naomi-campbell-walk.gif?fit=300%2C150&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/naomi-campbell-walk.gif?fit=480%2C240&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3231\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/naomi-campbell-walk.gif?resize=480%2C240\" alt=\"naomi campbell walk gif\" width=\"480\" height=\"240\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-3231\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo: Tenor<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Ya&#8217;ll there is this fine brotha that works in produce at Walmart. I visit weekly, never purchasing their trash ass fruits and veggies, just to have small talk with him. This is so sad on so many levels. Before and after I go inside the store, I sit in my car scrolling up and down Instagram and Twitter.<\/p>\n<h2>Here&#8217;s a tweet from the parking lot.<\/h2>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">The more I mature, the more I appreciate the soulful message behind Janet Jackson&#8217;s &#8220;I Get So Lonely&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 GirlTyler (@sheistyler) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/sheistyler\/status\/918986237293350912?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">October 13, 2017<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>So sad.<\/p>\n<p>Today, I did my usual routine: shake off a good wig, throw on some jeans, put on some purple lipstick, and went on my fake date at Walmart.<\/p>\n<h2>Here&#8217;s another desperate tweet that I sent from the parking lot:<\/h2>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">I used to be poppin in my early 20&#8217;s. Now I visit Walmart for recreation to flirt with the produce guy. What is life?<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 GirlTyler (@sheistyler) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/sheistyler\/status\/920068825890029569?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">October 16, 2017<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>When I left the store, I sat in the car for a few minutes reading the dumpster fire called comments on Facebook and wondering when Jesus is coming back to get us all,\u00a0then I realized I\u00a0was about to run out of gas. I traveled next door to the gas station and saw a familiar face.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s call her Ms. Ling for the sake of privacy. It was Ms. Ling, my 11th grade Language Arts teacher. I got out of the car and said her name, she turned around and smiled. I know she didn&#8217;t know who the hell I was, but it was so nice for her to pretend.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_3232\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3232\" style=\"width: 500px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/fakesmile.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3232\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/fakesmile\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/fakesmile.gif?fit=500%2C240&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"500,240\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"fakesmile\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo: Giphy&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/fakesmile.gif?fit=300%2C144&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/fakesmile.gif?fit=500%2C240&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3232\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/fakesmile.gif?resize=500%2C240\" alt=\"fake smile gif\" width=\"500\" height=\"240\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-3232\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo: Giphy<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>I said, &#8220;Tyler Young, class of 2006.&#8221; I was wearing a new wig and once I pulled the curls back from my face, she recognized me. We hugged and briefly caught up. I gave her a few details about this life that I&#8217;m constantly unsure about and she told me about her new school that she teaches at. Ms. Ling&#8217;s face lit up when I informed her that I chose a life as a writer. Back in the day, she introduced me to my favorites, <em>Of Mice and Men<\/em> and<em> The Great Gatsby<\/em>. At sixteen, she recognized my talent with words.<\/p>\n<p>Then I apologized to her.\u00a0I don&#8217;t even know where this apology came from but it slipped from my subconscious.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"2729\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/melaniaconfused\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?fit=583%2C420&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"583,420\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"melaniaconfused\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?fit=300%2C216&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?fit=510%2C367&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-2729\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?resize=510%2C367\" alt=\"melaniaconfused\" width=\"510\" height=\"367\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?resize=510%2C367&amp;ssl=1 510w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?resize=300%2C216&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?resize=326%2C235&amp;ssl=1 326w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/melaniaconfused.jpg?w=583&amp;ssl=1 583w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 510px) 100vw, 510px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I know I wasn&#8217;t the easiest student to deal with, but you played a pivotal role in my life.&#8221; She smiled ear to ear, telling me not to apologize for anything.<\/p>\n<p>But, I&#8217;m over here like, &#8220;Sis, I don&#8217;t know why I&#8217;m apologizing either.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Outside of basic student interruption in the early 2000&#8217;s like note passing and talking during class, I had no clue of what was causing my guilty conscience. Ms. Ling and I agreed to stay in touch. She gave me her email address and we hugged again, parting ways.<\/p>\n<p>I intend to email her, sooner or later.<\/p>\n<p>I got in my car and drove a few miles, then it hit me. &#8220;You used to irritate the fuck out of her.&#8221;<\/p>\n<h2>Me remembering my teenage foolery.<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1508\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1508\" style=\"width: 288px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/weebey.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"1508\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2015\/12\/02\/when-you-forget-to-wax-before-a-date\/weebey\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/weebey.gif?fit=288%2C288&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"288,288\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"weebey\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo Credit: Tumblr&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/weebey.gif?fit=288%2C288&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/weebey.gif?fit=288%2C288&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1508\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/12\/weebey.gif?resize=288%2C288\" alt=\"Photo Credit: Tumblr\" width=\"288\" height=\"288\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1508\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo Credit: Tumblr<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>So here&#8217;s what happened. I graduated in the top 10 percent of my class in high school. I ended up with a full ride to college, but getting there comes with a heap of foolishness. I loved cracking jokes in class, often at the expense of my teachers and classmates. I wouldn&#8217;t say that I was the most disrespectful pupil, however, I wasn&#8217;t the most respectful either.<\/p>\n<p>In regards to Ms. Ling, I used to pick on her.<\/p>\n<h2>Why,\u00a0you ask?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_2613\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2613\" style=\"width: 245px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/zendayablackish.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"2613\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2016\/09\/14\/8-things-i-learned-in-the-first-8-months-of-2016\/zendayablackish\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/zendayablackish.gif?fit=245%2C245&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"245,245\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"zendayablackish\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo Credit: ABC \/ Blackish&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/zendayablackish.gif?fit=245%2C245&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/zendayablackish.gif?fit=245%2C245&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2613\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/08\/zendayablackish.gif?resize=245%2C245\" alt=\"zendaya blackish gif\" width=\"245\" height=\"245\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-2613\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo Credit: ABC \/ Blackish<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Well, Ms. Ling was unmarried and childless in her late thirties at the time. I lived by old Southern ways that women should be married with at least one child by thirty. Idk if that is a Southern standard or what I conjured up in my fantasy world.<\/p>\n<h2>Me looking at me about to turn thirty in 308 days with no prospects.<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_3129\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3129\" style=\"width: 250px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/earthalaughing.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3129\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/06\/22\/ive-lost-everything-but-weight-this-year\/earthalaughing\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/earthalaughing.gif?fit=250%2C188&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"250,188\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"earthalaughing\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Photo: Tumblr&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/earthalaughing.gif?fit=250%2C188&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/earthalaughing.gif?fit=250%2C188&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3129\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/earthalaughing.gif?resize=250%2C188\" alt=\"eartha kitt stupid gif\" width=\"250\" height=\"188\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-3129\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo: Tumblr<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Each class, I reminded Ms. Ling that she was alone. I would walk into third period and say &#8220;How&#8217;s your boyfriend?&#8221;. She would say, &#8220;Enough Tyler&#8221; and I would respond, &#8220;I&#8217;m just checking in on how he&#8217;s doing. You do have one don&#8217;t you?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Please, God, don&#8217;t send me to hell.<\/p>\n<p>I was truly making a joke to get her to loosen up, she always seemed on edge,\u00a0while also hoping to find favor with my classmates by cracking tacky jokes. It worked, but at whose expense?<\/p>\n<p>So here we are 13 years later. I&#8217;m standing face to face with Ms. Ling, the woman I taunted for being unmarried. Here, the universe came full-circle.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/spiderman-e1508330916723.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3236\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/spiderman\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/spiderman-e1508330916723.jpg?fit=510%2C287&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"510,287\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"spiderman\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/spiderman-e1508330916723.jpg?fit=300%2C169&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/spiderman-e1508330916723.jpg?fit=510%2C287&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-3236\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/spiderman.jpg?resize=510%2C287\" alt=\"spiderman\" width=\"510\" height=\"287\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I too am single. I reduced Ms. Ling to a marital status. I could never walk in her shoes or claim to have empathy for her life, but I hate it when society attempts to diminish\u00a0my value because I haven&#8217;t walked down the aisle or given birth. I\u00a0am many things, but I&#8217;m not damaged goods. I am lonely AF though. On my drive home, I thought long and hard about &#8220;the hate you give&#8221; and how words never die. No matter how much good I&#8217;ve done since leaving Ms. Ling&#8217;s class 13 years ago, I know I left a hurtful impression. My younger self saw a mirror in Ms. Ling.<\/p>\n<p>As my grandfather used to say, &#8220;Laughing is catching.&#8221; I caught exactly what I put into the universe.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/kid-crying-interview.gif\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"3233\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/2017\/10\/16\/irony-running-11th-grade-language-arts-teacher\/kid-crying-interview\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/kid-crying-interview.gif?fit=360%2C235&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"360,235\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"kid-crying-interview\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/kid-crying-interview.gif?fit=300%2C196&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/kid-crying-interview.gif?fit=360%2C235&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3233\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/girltyler.com\/staging\/2937\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/kid-crying-interview.gif?resize=510%2C510\" alt=\"kid interview crying gif\" width=\"510\" height=\"510\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>God, I hope she never reads this. If you&#8217;ve been following me this year, then you know I&#8217;ve fallen off. I don&#8217;t write blogs as frequently as I should. 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