After reading the title of this post, I had to think to myself, “Well, I should hope no one is paying for sex on a date unless it’s their career choice.”
This is like my fourth post this year about sex and I will preface the below contents by saying that it was NOT my idea.
Here’s the scene, I was in New York in May and met some extremely awesome guys. I’ll refer to them as “guys” because these two are very well established and I don’t know if they’re interested in being associated with the filth that I sometimes write. Anyways, while we were getting to know each other at this event, they were asking about my blog and assumed the title GirlTyler.com was specifically intended for girls.
That is far from the truth.
I told them about my decision to be celibate.
Then one guy stopped me in the middle of my testimony because he knew I was lying.
Well, actually I wasn’t lying. It was just a poor word choice. The three of us agreed that I should say I am abstinent for an extended period of time.
It just sounds better.
One guy told me that I was walking in nun territory.
Satan is a liar.
Anywho, come to find out one of the guys said he was casually dating and had made the decision to chill out from having sex too. The other guy was trying to find cost effective ways to save money on dates besides inviting folks over to his house. Invites to the house, sometimes, depending on the circumstances can imply sex will be had. You know what happens when the night starts off as a casual one-on-one then your hormones betray you.
And somehow, you and your naked body get involved in a sticky situation.
Back to New York. The three of us stand there for like 30 minutes coming up with things to do on dates that are free and keep you from having sex.
Harder than we thought.
Here it is four months later, and I still haven’t finished this blog. Well it’s getting cold outside which means it’s time for my noncommital friends to engage in cuffing season. Before you do, here are 11 non-sexual activities you can engage in with someone you’re attracted to that involves keeping your clothes on at a low cost.
1. Use your buddy pass and take them along at the gym.
2. Find a kickback and dance the night away.
3. Visit the library.
Okay, you’re not supposed to talk at the library but damnit the ones I visit are LIT! Take your laptops and be each other’s accountability buddies for whatever project you’re working on. Free wifi, win!
4. Be woke together.
Digging someone who’s social consciousness falls in line with yours? Find a cause and join a peaceful protest.
5. Go to a free festival.
There are plenty of free culturally diverse festivals happening year-round every weekend.
6. Make vision boards.
You can learn a lot a person based on where they see themselves in the future.
7. A nature walk.
Outside is free.
8. Get competitive and play a good ole game of basketball.
Take your showers separately or else you wil have failed the mission and wasted my time writing this.
There are so many local organizations needing your help. Two pairs of hands are better than one.
10. People watch.
The mall is the best. Make up plotlines for people as they pass. Give them a backstory. I usually do this when I am alone, so I assume it’s fun in the company of another person.
11. Just talk.
Mental stimulation is the best kind of euphoria.
I’ve found you can get to know someone better in a public setting by watching their interactions with others as opposed to behind closed doors. In closing, save yourself some money and dignity. For your next date, get active, not sexually. See what I did there?